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I am Black, Beautiful and Great, but I realize America aint

Sadly, I think racism is one of those things that will never end.

You can't tell someone how to think or how to treat someone, and sensitivity and true consideration for someone else is a skill that is disappearing slowly and slowly.

I choose to believe that the only hope is Jesus Christ.

Now, does that mean that I don't do anything  about the horrible things that happen on a daily basis?
Does that mean that I have no feelings when I hear of another case of inhuman race?

Well, it shouldn't! But let's be honest.

How many preachers spoke about white supremacy just a week ago?
How many statuses were dedicated to injustice just a week ago?
How many protests occurred to demand equality for Blacks just a week ago?

I dare say that these things grow exponential after a terrible event...

Is it wrong? Absolutely not!
Should it stop? No, that's not what I'm saying.

My point is, we are going around in circles and that is exhausting. I feel pain every time I hear about or expe…

Puppy Love

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Jax is my puppy (Japanese Chin and Shih-tzu mix) who we've had for about 2 months now. In this short amount of time, he understands that my husband and I love him and will do our best to take care of him. I love watching this little guy grow, and seeing how much he tries to communicate with us. But even when he is trying to tell us something that he wants, it's up to us to say yes or no. It's up to us to teach and train him to do what we want him to do. 

It's amazing what he tries to get away with, and sometimes he'll look back sneakily to see if anyone is watching. It's also mind-blowing that when he does something wrong and gets a beating or gets yelled at, just seconds later he still wants to be near us, wants us to play with him, wants to receive our attention and love. No matter how hurt he was or how angry he was just a while ago, it seems like he strangely understands that we are his owners and that even if we have to correct him or punish him, we still l…

a healthy dose of radiation

I was warming up my lunch and the top of my Tupperware popped off while in the microwave. It reminded me of the other day when I was making cookies with my students - someone put the butter in the microwave and the same thing happened; the top popped off. Many of the other students said "just take the top off" so naturally that I thought about how normal it is to microwave food with no covering.

Everybody does it. Well, except for my mom. She always used to tell me and my brother to put a paper towel over our plates when we microwaved food. The radiation isn't good for you. I believed it was true and I knew it probably was dangerous, but it didn't seem or look dangerous at the time. And after many times of doing it, there were no immediate negative affects that I knew of. I didn't see any consequences where I could say "oh yeah! this happened because of that time I didn't cover the plate in the microwave". So I'm safe! Right?

How many times have…

I Woke Up Like This: "I AM ENOUGH!"

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So let me just be real,

I've gotten sad more times than I should've, worrying about other people's thoughts of me. 
Am I doing enough for people? Am I showing up enough for them?
Do I do enough for others to see me as successful?
Do I give enough? Am I there enough?
I'm getting older so why aren't my goals being fulfilled as fast as I thought.
Am I meeting other people's expectations of me?
How come I'm not doing as much as the next person? How come they got theirs quicker than me? 
Can other's speak well of me or say clearly that I'm moving in my purpose?
How come people are able to do so much and get these things, and I'm working hard and ain't gettin 

Awkward is the New Normal

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Hi!
My name is Crystal and some may label me "socially awkward":
-I get anxiety when I have to talk to someone, like if i am supposed to make a phone call, it takes so much energy to work up the nerve to dial the number.
-I don't talk much but I can write the heck out of a text/email. 
-I don't say much but I'm one heck of a listener!👂👂👂
-I talk to myself when no one's around
-I am passionate about people speaking logically.
-I hate being told what to do, especially if you haven't given me a chance to show you that I already know how to do it. Please excuse my attitude and eye-rolling, I just like autonomy
-I love being around people  but I hate it at the same time
-I have more patience with kids than with adults. 
-If you're my friend, i hate when other people are around you when i'm around you. I be like Yo, that's MY friend. MINE! who are you? 👀
-I converse more naturally with males
-I used to have a lot of people that I talked to on a regular basi…

Don't Shoot the Message!

I was listening to someone famous, who I really enjoy listening to. It's cool how much they talk about God. It's all the time, like All Thee Time...but they curse a whole lot and other stuff too. At first I was like, that's conflicting, but someone else replied and said something like, "but everyone's process isn't always fast, like they might just be beginning, and they know they believe, but everything didn't change all at once". And I was like, True! That was a really good point, and it helped me once again on my everlasting journey to loving solely like Jesus and being less prejudice against people who aren't "churched" like me.

But this post isn't really about that. It's more about the fact that even if, by chance, this famous person was being "conflicting", was it really wrong for him to talk about God? I mean, isn't that what we want; for people all over the world, all kinds of lifestyles to hear about who Je…

6 Ways to Tackle Confidence as an Introvert

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By Crystal Handy
Have you ever felt like you didn't belong? No matter the credentials you've obtained, nothing prepared you for the social skills you would need to feel like your functioning well in this fast-paced world. Does it seem like everyone around you has figured it out and they're moving full-force in their purpose, but you're stuck still trying to figure it out? Well, here's something that I've come up with to help myself. Maybe it will be a start to helping you as well. 

1. Don't Compare Yourself to Anyone:  Not even to yourself - Your old self is not you NOW. What you used to do may not be what you can do now. It's okay. Focus on who you are presently. You don't need that extra stress of figuring out if you're as good as your younger self, or as good as anyone else. Listen, other people have what they have; they are who they are; their background is their background. But what you have to offer is needed and nobody else can bring it lik…